Conflict before marriage is not necessarily a sign that a relationship is failing. Two people can love each other deeply while having different expectations, communication styles, family experiences, and priorities. The more important question is how couples respond when those differences create disagreement.

Marriage brings together two people with different experiences, values, communication styles, and ideas about what a partnership should look like. Even couples who deeply love each other can discover that they have very different expectations in marriage.

When couples reach a point where one partner wants to save the marriage while the other is considering divorce, traditional couples therapy may not feel like the right starting point. The partners may have completely different goals, making it difficult to decide what therapy should accomplish