Is your relationship stuck? How RLT therapy in Marin County can get you unstuck fast
Have you ever found yourself having the same argument over and over again? Do you feel more like roommates than romantic partners? Maybe you’ve tried to talk about what’s wrong, but the conversations either escalate into a fight or go nowhere. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And more importantly, you don’t have to stay stuck.
As a couples therapist trained in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), I see this pattern all the time. The good news? There’s a way out, and it doesn’t have to take years of therapy. RLT is a powerful, direct approach that gets to the root of the problem quickly, so you can start seeing real change right away.
Why Relationships Get Stuck
Relationships don’t fall apart overnight. They get stuck in negative cycles: unspoken resentment, poor communication, emotional distance, or recurring fights that never resolve. These patterns can feel impossible to break because they become automatic. One person criticizes, the other shuts down. One person withdraws, the other pursues. Over time, both partners feel unheard, unseen, and unfulfilled.
Many couples try to fix things on their own, but without the right tools, they often reinforce the very patterns that are keeping them stuck. That’s where Kodo Couples Therapy comes in.
How RLT Helps You Break Free, and Fast
Traditional therapy can sometimes take months just to identify the root problem. RLT cuts through the noise and gets straight to the heart of what’s really going on. This approach isn’t about endlessly dissecting your childhood or talking in circles about your feelings. It’s about getting honest, getting real, and learning exactly what needs to change.
Here’s how it works:
We Identify the Cycle: The first step is recognizing the toxic patterns that are keeping you stuck. Are you stuck in a blame-shame dynamic? Do you avoid conflict at all costs? We’ll get clear on what’s happening and why.
We Get Honest, With Love: RLT is known for its compassionate yet direct approach. I’ll help you see where you might be contributing to the cycle; not to blame you, but to empower you. Real change starts when both partners take ownership.
We Teach You New Tools: Once we’ve uncovered the real issues, we don’t stop there. You’ll learn practical, proven strategies to communicate better, repair trust, and build intimacy. These tools work because they’re grounded in both deep emotional work and real-world application.
Why Waiting Won’t Fix It
We often tell ourselves that things will settle down 'once work gets easier' or 'once the kids are older.' But time doesn't heal relationships, intentional action does. If you’re feeling stuck, you’ve likely already realized that waiting isn't working. Therapy here isn't about pointing fingers or tallying up mistakes; it’s about looking at the patterns that are keeping you apart and finding a new rhythm that actually feels good for both of you. You don't have to stay in this loop, we can start to change the story starting now.
Learn more about our Relational Life Therapy services in Marin here.
