How Kodo Couples Therapy Supports Couples on the Brink of Separation
Navigating the turbulent waters of a relationship on the brink of separation can feel overwhelming and daunting. At Kodo Couples Therapy, we understand that when one partner is leaning out while the other is hoping to repair the bond, traditional approaches might not suffice. This is where discernment counseling comes into play, offering a unique path to relationship clarity by addressing the specific needs of couples who are unsure whether to stay or to part ways. Unlike conventional couples therapy, this method creates a safe space for both partners to reflect individually, free from pressure and guilt, allowing them to explore their feelings and options without rushing into decisions. In this post, we'll explore how slowing down to discern can preserve dignity and minimize harm, helping couples make informed choices about their future together.
Discovering Discernment Counseling
Discernment counseling offers a unique approach for couples standing at a crossroads in their relationship. This section explores the concept, its differences from traditional therapy, and the potential paths it unveils for couples.
Understanding Discernment Counseling
Discernment counseling is a specialized form of therapy designed for couples on the brink of separation. It provides a structured approach to help partners gain clarity about their relationship's future.
This process is particularly beneficial when one partner is considering ending the relationship, while the other hopes to salvage it. Research has shown that discernment counseling can be an effective tool in helping couples make informed decisions about their future.
The primary goal is not to solve relationship problems, but to help couples decide whether to work on their relationship or move towards separation with greater understanding and less conflict.
Differentiating from Traditional Couples Therapy
Discernment counseling differs significantly from traditional couples therapy in its approach and objectives.
According to Psychology Today, discernment counseling provides a structured environment for couples to explore their options without the pressure of immediate reconciliation or separation.
This approach allows each partner to gain individual clarity while still considering the relationship as a whole.
Exploring the Three Possible Paths
Discernment counseling typically leads couples to one of three paths:
Maintain the status quo: Couples may choose to make no immediate changes, allowing more time for reflection.
Move towards separation or divorce: If both partners agree that the relationship cannot be salvaged, they can begin the process of separation with greater mutual understanding.
Commit to a six-month reconciliation effort: Couples may decide to engage in intensive couples therapy to address their issues and work towards rebuilding their relationship.
The Family Institute at Northwestern University notes that regardless of the chosen path, discernment counseling helps couples make more informed decisions about their future, reducing conflict and emotional turmoil. If you are on the brink and need support, contact us for a free consultation.
